I also spent some time talking with my aunt this weekend. It was an interesting and enlightening conversation. I was talking to her about the changes I need- and want- to make, and some of my plans. She was very supportive, which was so great. In talking with her, she reminded me of her hospitalization for a head injury she sustained a couple of years ago. She talked to me about the headaches and the pain she was in for nearly a year afterward. She talked with me about the changes it brought about, and even some of the changes she actually welcomed and is happy to still have. She told me about how before her head injury, she did not have the motivation to go back and complete school, or even learn too many new things. However, since this, she has returned to school, completed her Bachelor's in Nursing, and is now working on her Master's degree- and celebrated her 60th birthday. We talked about some of the symptoms and issues I still deal with, such as the ADD, headaches, sleep issues, multi-tasking issues, and even depreciation in confidence, and those similarities and differences to what she has experienced. We talked about how though it has been a couple of years already, she still has problems with sleeping, but actually welcomes some of the ADD symptoms. She is now able to focus more on tasks she wants to complete, and has a plan for who she wants to be. She said her head injury "made her smarter"; I chuckled at this. I think she has always been smart, but I think it is that she now has a plan for herself, that she did not have before. I think she is happy with having to create herself again, because she can make herself who she wants to be - and is well on her way. At that moment, I realized how proud I was to be her niece- and how proud I was at her taking such a difficult ordeal and making it into something so great for herself. She is doing what I aspire to do.
After talking, she still struggles with sleep issues, in that she can sleep all the time, though not well. I too have this issue- I can fall asleep quickly if I do not keep busy; however, if I keep too busy, I get a headache which causes another cycle. She still experiences some of these same issues on occasion, though she says they are not as frequent, and can actually use them more to her advantage.
It is obvious to me that she has identified and developed the coping skills she needs to get through her challenges, and it felt so great to talk in person with someone else who could understand some of the issues I was going through, first hand. It was also great to speak with someone who was in a place I am trying to get to- a place of not only acceptance, but action. I think there is room for me to more actively participate in my own life. Maybe for you too?
Be the reason someone chose not to give-up.
Photo credit to https://beacon.wharton.upenn.edu/entrepreneurship/2014/11/scale-your-mindset/